Trigger warning: Attention, the following article is about (sexualized) violence against women.
Victim Blaming: When are we going to start believing women?
It’s interesting that women are accused of constantly being over-emotional about everything. At the moment it is mainly certain men who are lashing out hysterically. As soon as a woman accuses a man of violent acts, numbers, data and facts are suddenly no longer of interest. The reactions to the allegations, as we are currently experiencing in the case of Rammstein front singer Till Lindemann, who is said to have sexually abused women, are completely irrational and have no basis whatsoever. Nevertheless, a large part of society traditionally supports the perpetrators, in the sense of the presumption of innocence, which also applies to the victim. However, if the victim is a woman, she suddenly becomes the culprit. What happens there?
Victim Blaming: The Myth of the Lying Woman
Victim blaming, in English offender-victim reversal, as such only received an official name in the 1970s, but the method of shifting the burden from the offender to the victim has a much longer tradition. This explains why we still distrust women on a large scale, accuse them of lying and accuse them of wanting to destroy the lives of innocent men. What sneaky beasts we are. I find that exciting. If we women really had this power, wouldn’t we live in a female-dominated and not a male-dominated society? Hadn’t we long since subjugated all the defenseless men with our siren song?
Sirens, witches, “whores,” literature, especially history books, are full of vicious women whose sole purpose in life is to bring men to ruin. Eve, for example, this envious woman, could not help herself and tasted the apple of temptation. It’s very likely that she only did it because she didn’t want Adam to have a life in paradise or was pissed that he broke up. And now look at this shit: The poor sod was kicked out of the Garden of Eden. lives destroyed.
I’m confused. Are women now weaker and therefore inherently inferior to men, or do we perhaps possess a strength that is so frightening that it must be suppressed at all costs? But the question of strength and weakness is actually unimportant. After all, this isn’t a competition. The goal is an equal society in which we will all be winners. However, it would shorten the way there if we discarded the myth of the lying woman. And sure, the stretch would be easier to bear too if women weren’t the constant victims of violence by, let’s face the real facts, mostly men. That would help enormously.
What doesn’t help us is not wearing short skirts or walking home alone at night or going home with men. Because the only person who is truly at fault for sexual assault is the perpetrator.
Rape allegations for five minutes of fame?
Incidentally, sexual assault is rarely about sexual desire, but about the urge to exercise power by subjugating and humiliating women. That’s why rape shouldn’t be referred to as “non-consensual sex,” but simply as a heinous violent crime. There is no leeway for maybe-she-wanted-assumptions or-she-eventually-provoked-statements. Because nobody wants to be the victim of a violent crime. Arguments like “He doesn’t need to rape women” can be avoided, especially when the men are in the public eye. Sure, they can have sex anytime. Sometimes men like Harvey Weinstein or Jeffrey Epstein don’t want sex, sometimes they want to rape.